DAY 13 FIND OUT WHAT MAKES THEM FEEL LOVED

14 DAYS OF TIPS FOR DEMONSTRATING LOVE TO YOUR CHILD
DAY 13 FIND OUT WHAT MAKES THEM FEEL LOVED – Ask your child what he likes others to do to or for him that makes him feel loved. Dr. Gary Chapman, in his book THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES OF CHILDREN (Northfield Publishing, 1997), explains how each individual feels loved in different ways; receiving gifts, hearing words of affirmation, acts of kindness, or touch. Ask your child which one makes him feel loved.

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